The Arrow & The Bow

If your children are very young, brace yourself for the inevitable. We are referring to what’s happening right now during this summer season to parents of late teen and early twenties children. They are doing what you will eventually have to do, that is, let your arrows (children) fly.

DSC_2442At this moment some moms and dads are in the midst of the wedding of a son or a daughter. Others are registering the first of their eldest for college. In both cases the bow of parenting is bent and the strain forms the the limbs into both a smile and a sad frown.

In one moment there are smiles that come from knowing they have instilled enough courage in their child to step off the edge of the nest and fly while in the next moment the tears flow from knowing a room will soon be empty in their house.

Having “been there and endured that,” the number one bit of advice we offer to parents of small children is…now is the time, while they’re youngsters, to determine that the target for your arrows is a life of knowing the Lord and doing His will.

Through loving and diligent discipline, spending quantities of time with them that leads to quality time, and being mindful to always point them to the truths in God’s written word, you can trust that the painful bending of your heart that is required to release them will result in them hitting the target of a Godly life. Nothing else matters! Why? Because if your little arrows fly to a life committed to knowing Christ and seeking His kingdom then “all these things (such as career, spouse, vocation, etc) will be added” to them.

May God bless you as you watch your arrows fly…and may these words and melody encourage you to prepare for the inevitable release.

Steve & Annie


  1. Linda Wells says:

    Hi Steve and Annie,
    Just a quick note to say your music is beautiful to my ears. The Lord has used it through the years to minister to my heart. My husband and I heard you at a concert in Madison Wi some 28 years ago. Our small daughter was with us at the time and you sang, “The Arrow and the Bow” and somehow the truth of the message of this song stuck with me.
    Well, the years had passed and this little girl married a fine young man who is a Godly Pastor and they have 6 children and one on the way!!
    Our daughter was 19 and we thought her fellow should wait a bit to marry her but he was not convinced. They had a beautiful God honoring wedding but I had one request. A friend with a beautiful voice and our Pastor was a talented guitar player sang, “The Arrow and the Bow” I must say they did a stellar job with the song. As they sang and played
    my eyes teared up a bit as I remembed that little girl at your concert, now the bride and time to let our arrow fly. They have been married for 13 years this August.
    My husband and I are blessed with 5 children married to believing spouses and 14 grandchildren, 2 more being fearfully and wonderfully formed. My husband and I are celebrating 40 years of marriage in August. The Lord in His mercy saved our souls 38 years ago and we give thanks for His calling us out of darkness into His marvelous light!
    Thank you for your ministry-Mark and Linda Wells

    • Steve and Annie says:

      Mark and Linda,
      A sincere thanks for your comments about The Arrow and the Bow. We’re delighted that it has been so meaningful to your family through the years. Congrats on all the grandchildren as well as your children who have honored Christ with their lives. We can say with Apostle Paul, “I have no greater joy than to know that my children walk in truth!” God’s continued blessings on you and all your family!
      Steve & Annie

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