The Ten Commitments of Marriage-Part 1

Wedding Day 1975

Wedding Day 1975

If God can narrow down to Ten Commandments what it takes for us to live in harmony with Himself and with others, then certainly we don’t need anymore than ten commitments when it comes to living in harmony with our spouse.

    Using the original ten as our model (from Exodus 20:2-17 NIV), we adapted our personal “10 Commitments of Marriage.” In no way are they meant to replace or add to God’s written Word. Our intent is to simply apply each one to our lives as a couple and as individuals. We pass these on to you with hopes you will find them helpful to your own marriage.



Here are the first five for you to consider. We’ll post the remaining five next week.

1. You shall have no other gods before me.

1. I will esteem my spouse above all other human relationships.  I will look for ways to serve and bless my spouse.   While I value and treasure others, my husband/wife will be my primary focus and I will be careful to keep his/her needs as my main concern. (Friends, parents, organizations, children, church family, etc…might be an important part of my life, but no one will take the highest place that my spouse holds.) 


2. You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below.  You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments.

2. I will put the needs and desires of my spouse above everything else.  A job, career, material possessions, ministry, reading, television, football, hunting/hobbies, antique-ing, sewing, etc… are useful and may add pleasure to my life, but I will not allow any of these things to take preeminence over my relationship with my spouse.

3. You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God, for the Lord will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name.

3. I will not talk critically or defame my spouse’s name or reputation to others.  I will speak only in a positive way, take every opportunity to affirm and build up my spouse privately as well as publicly.  I will not call my spouse ugly names, verbally attack their character or denigrate them in anyway.


4. Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy.  Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God.  On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your manservant or your maidservant, nor your animals, nor the alien within your gates.  For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the seventh day.  Therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.

4. I will reserve quality and quantity time with my spouse.  While we may work six days a week, we will reserve time each week to renew our love and commitment to one another.  This time will be used to keep our family united as well as our marriage.  Our children need times of refreshing with out the stress of responsibility and work. In order to do this, I will make the effort to plan meals and fun times that will be enjoyed by all.


5. Honor your father and mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.

5. I will show respect and honor to the extended family of my spouse.  I will participate in family dinners and gatherings with joy, cooperation and genuine love…because this blesses my spouse.


We are confident of this one thing, if you live your life obeying God’s original 10 Commandments, both your spiritual and physical life will benefit. If you apply them to your marriage you will enjoy a prosperous, healthy and fulfilled marriage relationship…and who wouldn’t want that outcome!

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