We Will Love This Child

DSCN0052My daughter, Heidi and I co-wrote a book on the subject of hospitality entitled, Entertaining Angels.  In preparation for the  writing of this project, we conducted surveys of women from all across the country.  The questionnaires were meant to explore attitudes about extending hospitality within, as well as outside the home.


We asked this question:  What would your response be if you were asked to give a baby shower for a girl who is pregnant and not married?” 

  Here are some of the responses:

  • I would say yes.  It is a great way to show God’s love to someone who really needs it.
  • I would consider this a great opportunity to minister to this young girl and her family.  The Bible says the world will know we are Christ’s disciples, not because we are right all the time, but because we have such extravagant love for one another.
  • I was that unmarried and pregnant teenager.  I remember members of my extended family as well as my church family giving me a baby shower.  But more than the helpful gifts, they showered me with love and forgiveness.  No one had to tell me that I had messed up.  I knew it.  But the love shown me was the greatest gift of all.


Along with the above responses there were also different attitudes expressed like this one…

  • We had a young girl at our church who “got in trouble.”  The ladies in the congregation talked about what we should do.  We decided instead of a baby shower, we would have a simple dinner with family and close friends.  We didn’t send out invitations, and we didn’t use a registry.  We just bought some things we thought she might need.  The gifts were sent home with her, and she opened them by herself.  We were hesitant to create too much of a party mood that might encourage wrong behavior in other young girls in our church.  We tried to create a balance of helping the girl without rewarding her bad behavior.


Honestly, the above response broke my heart.  In my mind’s eye I could see the young girl opening each gift as she sat all alone in her bedroom. I contrasted the response of this group of church ladies with the parable of the prodigal son in Luke 15:11-32.   [Keep in mind, had the prodigal son been a prodigal daughter she more than likely would have come back to the father’s house pregnant.]

“But while he (the wayward child) was still a long way off, his father saw him and filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.  The son said to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you.  I am no longer worthy to be called your son.”

  “But the Father said to his servants, ‘Quick!  Bring the best robe and put it on him.  Put a ring on his finger and scandals on his feet.  Bring the fattened calf and kill it.  Let’s have a feast and celebrate.  For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’  So they began to celebrate.’”

Some dear friends of ours were faced with the disappointment of becoming grandparents before they became in-laws.   The father was devastated that his daughter was pregnant and not married.  Gratefully, they allowed mercy to win over judgment.  Steve wrote the song, “We Will Love This Child” to affirm the choice the parents made to love and forgive.  Not surprisingly, this sweet child has become the crowning glory to her grandma and grandpa.

Perhaps you are facing a similar situation at this very hour.  I hope the lyric to the song posted above will be an encouragement to you.  When we get to heaven, I don’t believe we will ever hear the heavenly Father say to us, “I think you were too quick to forgive.  You showed that person too much mercy.  You loved too much.”  No, when we choose to forgive, show mercy and offer love, it is the thumbprint of God on our lives.  We can never go wrong when we do what we see the Father doing.

Annie Chapman


We Will Love This Child

We will love this child, my child, that grows inside of you

Love is how God smiles, so love is what we’ll do

A dream come true too early still can be a dream come true

We will love this child, my child, the little one in you


This was not my plan for you, or me

But plans were made to change sometimes, if they have to be

This child will lead you on a journey to a different place in time

But love will go there with you, and you will find, yes, you will find that


We will love this child, my child that grows inside of you

Love is how God smiles, but love is what we do

A dream come true too early, still can be a dream come true

We will love this child, my child, the little one in you


Words and Music:  Steve Chapman/Times & Seasons Music/BMI

Available on the CD, “Love Was Spoken”





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